In many ways, this is one of the most complex topics I ever discuss when it comes to suicide prevention. Training and years of experience leads me to always say that disclosure of suicidality must be taken seriously, and that support pathways can and should be identified to support the individual at risk. However, it is also true that such feelings can be utilised to manipulate a situation and be involved in domestic abuse, controlling behaviours, or even attempts to circumvent legal consequences. Being suicidal does not automatically excuse current or past behaviour, but it does demand intervention and recognition. The practical task is to help someone live through a moment when they cannot see a way forward. That deserves patience and serious support. It also requires us to protect other people’s ability to leave, seek safety or be heard. A response that makes one person’s silence the condition of another person’s survival has left too much responsibility in the wrong place.